How does it happen that families inadvertently impair those they care about the most?
Bowen theory suggests that families have a number of mechanisms for dealing with their ambient level of immaturity. One common process involves parents focusing on their children. Helping and caring for the “little ones” can make parents feel “bigger” and less anxious. Doing so beyond the reality needs of the young unwittingly programs the children to look to the parents and others for direction and support. The children fail to develop a robust “self” to deal with the exigencies of life and tend to replicate their intense dependent relationships with the original caretaker(s). So the parents have felt more stable caring for “needy” offspring and, in the process, contributed to the children being less mature than them. This presentation will describe the family projection process/child focus and parents’ attempts to dent the process by working on their own part in it.
Kathleen B. Kerr, MSN, MA, CNS is a clinical nurse specialist, and has had a private practice since 1975. She was on the faculty of the Bowen Center for the Study of the Family from 1978 to 2012. She is a founding Board member of the Bowen Theory Academy where she coordinates the Family History Database Project, which collects multiple multi-generational family histories to study basic concepts in Bowen theory, and a Research Seminar.
Monday February 11, 2013
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